genprogress:

Did you know only 5% of LGBT adults ages 18-24 are “out” in the workplace? A new report from Generation Progress and the Center for American Progress finds LGBT youth are facing “undue burdens” as they enter the workforce. Read the report here.

I believe it. There are so many people out of work in this age group why would we ever risk coming out? We can just be replaced.

(Reblogged from felixity)

rabbivole replied to your post “drakonlily replied to your post:i DID NOT SIGN UP TO WORK WITH MIDDLE…”

common core was ‘language arts and social studies’ when i was in middle school

There’s common core math now and some of it is really, really weird.

Like in a “I’m really big on figuring out better ways to teach math and I’m open to new ideas, but this shit is bananas” kind of way. Part of my issue is that they give them math problems they don’t yet have the tools to do and have them learn how to do it by, uh, guessing and checking. 

Which I get is supposed to help develop an awareness for numbers and using them, but I have the feeling is going to lead to more convos like the one I had today, which was basically “why learn the math if I can just guess and it will work?”

They also teach a weirdly high amount of stats now, which I get, too, but it kinda screws kids over when they move around from middle school to high school (if their school didn’t do the stats, ahahah, good luck, better learn that real quick, welcome to algebra 1).

you are in my thoughts.
Good luck, for the gods have already forsaken you.

I’m supposed to help with calculus and chemistry also what the hell is common core and why does it hurt me so?

i DID NOT SIGN UP TO WORK WITH MIDDLE SCHOOLERS save me please

I just went through all of the straight white boys texting tumblr and it was marvelous.

pinstripesuit:

Dude writes about feminism
Comments: OH MY GOD YAY THIS IS AMAZING YOU’RE SO AWESOME THIS IS THE BEST THING I’VE EVER READ I mean there’s this one part here that isn’t exactly 100% correct but whatevs YOU ARE OUR SAVIOR LET US SHOWER YOU IN FLOWERS AND CAT GIFS

Woman writes about feminism
Comments: You see, this part here, you should have used a semicolon instead of a colon, therefore your post and the entire history of the oppression of women is wrong you stupid bitch.

(Reblogged from pinstripesuit)

sirtophatthethird:

wayfaring-mermaid:

specialagentofthelamb:

This woman deserves a round of applause and a throne of gold. This is the most realistic & amazing thing for someone to say for this generation of students. I wasn’t able to go to college this year because my parents can’t afford to send me and I had every scholarship, grant, loan known to man and it still wouldn’t work. Finally someone gets it!

Preach!

WHAT DOES IT TAKE FOR PEOPLE TO REALIZE THIS?!

SO MANY OTHER COUNTRIES EITHER PAY FOR THEIR POPULATIONS’ EDUCATION OR JUST WRITE OFF THE BILL IF DOESN’T GET PAID FOR.

THE WAY THE AMERICAN EDUCATION SYSTEM WORKS IS BACKWARDS AND MANGLED.

(Source: futomato)

(Reblogged from abeardfullofbees)

So I got my new binder

bedabug:

therealjazzbertie:

megannicoline:

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This is me in my usual bra, note the 34D/32DD boobs.

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And here is the binder, almost completely flat.

This thing is awesome.  It is remarkably comfortable, too.  Feels a bit like wearing a sports bra. I got it from Love Boat, this one(http://www.lesloveboat.com/shop/product_info.php?products_id=122&osCsid=57cc209b6d95c6c3efa2d87a2325b6c2)

WOAH.

Reblogging again for my trans* and genderfluid buddies and also all female cosplay friends.

(Source: a-goblin-or-a-goddess)

(Reblogged from bitteroreo)

How to Criticize Israel Without Being Anti-Semitic

this-is-not-jewish:

If you’ve spent any time discussing or reading about the Israeli-Palestinian conflict, I guarantee you’ve heard some variation of this statement:

OMG, Jews think any criticism of Israel is anti-Semitic! 

In the interests of this post, I’m going to assume that the people who express such sentiments are acting in good faith and really don’t mean to cause pain to or problems for Diaspora Jewry.  For those good-faith people, I present some guidelines for staying on the good side of that admittedly murky line, along with the reasoning why the actions I list are problematic.  (And bad-faith people, you can no longer plead ignorance if you engage in any of these no-nos.  Consider yourselves warned.)  In no particular order:

  1. Don’t use the terms “bloodthirsty,” “lust for Palestinian blood,” or similar.  Historically, Jews have been massacred in the belief that we use the blood of non-Jews (particularly of children) in our religious rituals.  This belief still persists in large portions of the Arab world (largely because white Europeans deliberately spread the belief among Arabs) and even in parts of the Western world.  Murderous, inhumane, cruel, vicious—fine.  But blood…just don’t go there.  Depicting Israel/Israelis/Israeli leaders eating children is also a no-no, for the same reason.
  2. Don’t use crucifixion imagery. Another huge, driving motivation behind anti-Semitism historically has been the belief that the Jews, rather than the Romans, crucified Jesus.  As in #1, this belief still persists.  There are plenty of other ways to depict suffering that don’t call back to ancient libels.
  3. Don’t demand that Jews publicly repudiate the actions of settlers and extremists.  People who make this demand are assuming that Jews are terrible people or undeserving of being heard out unless they “prove” themselves acceptable by non-Jews’ standards.  (It’s not okay to demand Palestinians publicly repudiate the actions of Hamas in order to be accepted/trusted, either.)
  4. Don’t say “the Jews” when you mean Israel.  I think this should be pretty clear.  The people in power in Israel are Jews, but not all Jews are Israelis (let alone Israeli leaders).
  5. Don’t say “Zionists” when you mean Israel. Zionism is no more a dirty word than feminism.  It is simply the belief that the Jews should have a country in part of their ancestral homeland where they can take refuge from the anti-Semitism and persecution they face everywhere else.  It does not mean a belief that Jews have a right to grab land from others, a belief that Jews are superior to non-Jews, or any other such tripe, any more than feminism means hating men.  Unless you believe that Israel should entirely cease to exist, you are yourself Zionist.  Furthermore, using “Zionists” in place of “Israelis” is inaccurate and harmful.  The word “Zionists” includes Diasporan Jews as well (most of whom support a two-state solution and pretty much none of whom have any influence on Israel’s policies) and is used to justify anti-Semitic attacks outside Israel (i.e., they brought it on themselves by being Zionists).  And many of the Jews IN Israel who are most violent against Palestinians are actually anti-Zionist—they believe that the modern state of Israel is an offense against God because it isn’t governed by halakha (traditional Jewish religious law).  Be careful with the labels you use.
  6. Don’t call Jews you agree with “the good Jews.”  Imposing your values on another group is not okay.  Tokenizing is not okay.  Appointing yourself the judge of what other groups can or should believe is not okay.
  7. Don’t use your Jewish friends or Jews who agree with you as shields.  (AKA, “I can’t be anti-Semitic, I have Jewish friends!” or “Well, Jew X agrees with me, so you’re wrong.”)  Again, this behavior is tokenizing and essentially amounts to you as a non-Jew appointing yourself arbiter over what Jews can/should feel or believe.  You don’t get to do that.
  8. Don’t claim that Jews are ethnically European.  Jews come in many colors—white is only one.  Besides, the fact that many of us have some genetic mixing with the peoples who tried to force us to assimilate (be they German, Indian, Ethiopian, Italian…) doesn’t change the fact that all our common ancestral roots go back to Israel.
  9. Don’t claim that Jews “aren’t the TRUE/REAL Jews.”  Enough said.
  10. Don’t claim that Jews have no real historical connection to Israel/the Temple Mount.  Archaeology and the historical record both establish that this is false.
  11. Don’t accuse Diasporan Jews of dual loyalties or treason.  This is another charge that historically has been used to justify persecution and murder of Jews.  Having a connection to our ancestral homeland is natural.  Having a connection to our co-religionists who live there is natural.  It is no more treasonous for a Jew to consider the well-being of Israel when casting a vote than for a Muslim to consider the well-being of Islamic countries when voting.  (Tangent: fuck drone strikes.  End tangent.)
  12. Don’t claim that the Jews control the media/banks/country that isn’t Israel.  Yet another historical anti-Semitic claim is that Jews as a group intend to control the world and try to achieve this aim through shadowy, sinister channels.  There are many prominent Jews in the media and in the banking industry, yes, but they aren’t engaged in any kind of organized conspiracy to take over those industries, they simply work in those industries.  The phrase “the Jews control” should never be heard in a debate/discussion of Israel.
  13. Don’t depict the Magen David (Star of David) as an equivalent to the Nazi swastika.  The Magen David represents all Jews—not just Israelis, not just people who are violent against Palestinians, ALL JEWS.  When you do this, you are painting all Jews as violent, genocidal racists.  DON’T.
  14. Don’t use the Holocaust/Nazism/Hitler as a rhetorical prop.  The Jews who were murdered didn’t set foot in what was then Palestine, let alone take part in Israeli politics or policies.  It is wrong and appropriative to try to use their deaths to score political points.  Genocide, racism, occupation, murder, extermination—go ahead and use those terms, but leave the Holocaust out of it.
  15. In visual depictions (i.e., political cartoons and such), don’t depict Israel/Israelis as Jewish stereotypes.  Don’t show them in Chassidic, black-hat garb.  Don’t show them with exaggerated noses or frizzled red hair or payus (earlocks).  Don’t show them with horns or depict them as the Devil.  Don’t show them cackling over/hoarding money.  Don’t show them drinking blood or eating children (see #1).  Don’t show them raping non-Jewish women.  The Nazis didn’t invent the tropes they used in their propaganda—all of these have been anti-Semitic tropes going back centuries.  (The red hair trope, for instance, goes back to early depictions of Judas Iscariot as a redhead, and the horns trope stems from the belief that Jews are the Devil’s children, sent to destroy the world as best we can for our “father.”)
  16. Don’t use the phrase “the chosen people” to deride or as proof of Jewish racism.  When Jews say we are the chosen people, we don’t mean that we are biologically superior to others or that God loves us more than other groups.  Judaism in fact teaches that everyone is capable of being a righteous, Godly person, that Jews have obligations to be ethical and decent to “the stranger in our midst,” and that non-Jews don’t get sent to some kind of damnation for believing in another faith.  When we say we’re the chosen people, we mean that, according to our faith, God gave us extra responsibilities and codes of behavior that other groups aren’t burdened with, in the form of the Torah.  That’s all it means.
  17. Don’t claim that anti-Semitism is eradicated or negligible.  It isn’t.  In fact, according to international watchdog groups, it’s sharply on the rise.  (Which sadly isn’t surprising—anti-Semitism historically surges during economic downturns, thanks to the belief that Jews control the banks.)  This sort of statement is extremely dismissive and accuses us of lying about our own experiences.
  18. Don’t say that since Palestinians are Semites, Jews/Israelis are anti-Semitic, too.  You do not get to redefine the oppressions of others, nor do you get to police how they refer to that oppression.  This also often ties into #8.  Don’t do it.  Anti-Semitism has exclusively meant anti-Jewish bigotry for a good century plus now.  Coin your own word for anti-Palestinian oppression, or just call it what it is: racism mixed with Islamophobia.
  19. Don’t blow off Jews telling you that what you’re saying is anti-Semitic with some variant of the statement at the top of this post.  Not all anti-Israel speech is anti-Semitic (a lot of it is valid, much-deserved criticism), but some certainly is.  Actually give the accusation your consideration and hear the accuser out.  If they fail to convince you, that’s fine.  But at least hear them out (without talking over them) before you decide that.

I’m sure this isn’t a comprehensive list, but it covers all the hard-and-fast rules I can think of.  (I welcome input for improving it.)

But wait!  Why should I care about any of this?  I’m standing up for people who are suffering!

You should care because nonsense like the above makes Jews sympathetic to the Palestinian plight wary and afraid of joining your cause.  You should care because, unfortunately, the Israeli-Palestinian conflict has correlated to an uptick in anti-Semitic attacks around the world, attacks on Jews who have no say in Israeli politics, and this kind of behavior merely aggravates that, whether you intend it to or not. 

The Israeli-Palestinian conflict is a real minefield in that it’s a clash between oppressed people of color and an ethnoreligious group that is dominant in Israel but marginalized and brutalized elsewhere (often nowadays on the exact grounds that they share ethnoreligious ties with the people of Israel), so it’s damned hard to toe the line of being socially aware and sensitive to both groups.  I get that.  But I think it is possible to toe that line, and I hope this post helps with that.  (And if a Palestinian makes a similar list of problematic arguments they hear targeted at them, I’d be happy to reblog it, too.)

So, TL;DR version:

  1. Do go ahead and criticize Israel.
  2. Don’t use anti-Semitic stereotypes or tropes.
  3. Don’t use overly expansive language that covers Jews as a whole and not just Israel.
  4. Don’t use lies to boost your claims.
  5. Do engage Jews in conversation on the issues of Israel and of anti-Semitism, rather than simply shutting them down for disagreeing.
  6. Do try to be sensitive to the fact that, fair or not, many people take verbal or violent revenge for the actions of Israelis on Diasporan Jews, and Diasporan Jews are understandably frightened and upset by this.

May there be peace in our days.

(Reblogged from bitteroreo)
(Reblogged from dicktouching)

Dear Lord,
In your boundless wisdom and kindness, please don’t make me teaching fucking middle schoolers again.
Amen

Anonymous said: So Dashcon staff have, so far, tried to claim that WTNV was paid anyway (icensoredyou[.]tumblr[.]com/post/91644976458/wtnv-lied-just-so-you-know), Dashcon’s official ‘Head of the Doctor Who Committee’ claims that "Why should they pay for Gingerhaze letting people down?" (theprofessorstrikesagain[.]tumblr[.]com/post/91788943591/note-this-is-in-a-submit-form-bc-i-actually-have), and they're trying to start rumours that 4Chan ruined Dashcon (www[.]youtube[.]com/watch?v=RCSgrHogq6I). Pls explain?

brinconvenient:

lorentztransformation:

brinconvenient:

lorentztransformation:

dani-kin:

theprofessorstrikesagain:

brinconvenient:

It was my understanding that the 4chan rumors were never serious. It was a common joke on the floor Friday night and I even almost made a post that ended in “your move 4chan” after they’d raised the money, but I thought better of it because I thought people (and 4chan) might take me seriously.

As for WTNV, dashcon staff said they paid half of the appearance fee and didn’t receive an invoice for travel expenses requirements until a few days before the event. Staff said that WTNV elected to pay for their own flight and choose their own lodgings rather than stay at the Renaissance Hotel. (The mention of reimbursement leads me to believe that all parties had originally agreed on that and that the con would reimburse their costs). Per Roxanne at the final panel, they had 2/3 of the remaining 50% on the table in the meeting with Jeffrey Cranor but he decided to take the business loss and walk, since they were already more than 40 minutes past the time they were supposed to start.

I’m even willing to overlook WTNV arriving 15 minutes late to the venue since they were coming from Chicago, which is actually 40 minutes away from the venue on a good traffic day, and Chicago usually does not have good traffic days.

I am not responsible for theprofessorstrikesagain's words or opinion. Judging from this “I was the Head of the now unneeded Doctor Who Committee.” I think that she is not speaking in an official capacity either. In either case, take that up with people who were involved: theprofessorstrikesagain, gingerhaze, dashcon, and night-vale-community-radio

Everyone. Please stop asking me to speak for people who are not me.

HAHAHA. Okay, I’m going to respond to this real quick.

I have repeatedly, to the point of annoyance, stated that I am not an administrator of DashCon. I’m not a moderator of DashCon and I’m not in any way an owner of DashCon. I was a volunteer who also did 3 panels. I am no longer an official anything. That is the extent of my involvement with the event. The things that I’m stating in posts on my own blog are things that I’m saying because I want to say them. I am speaking out because I want to speak out.

1.) As to the Gingerhaze thing, yeah, I don’t think they should pay for her abandoning the con, but that’s their call, not mine. I have zero to do with it.

2.) The above statements about appearance fees and invoices, etc. are absolutely true. The Night Vale crew decided that they wanted to be put up in a hotel in downtown Chicago instead of staying in the Renaissance like everyone else because they’re special snowflakes. This was the reason they were late 15 minutes to their own show.

3.) The explanation here about the money is a little off, so I’m going to clear it up.

It’s absolutely true that the admins had 2/3 of their remaining 50% in cash. They had the remaining 1/3 in Paypal, due to the fiasco of the night before. This is why Night Vale demanded their money when they did; they thought that they weren’t going to get paid at the end of the weekend. The admins said that they were more than welcome to have their money before their performance, which is when they showed up 15 minutes late.

They went into the staff office and the admins showed them that they had the 2/3 in cash and the remaining 1/3 in Paypal. However, Paypal was having server errors at the time, and refused to transfer the money. The admins spent 25 minutes trying to transfer the money, apologizing the entire time. They called Paypal to ask what was going on and Paypal claimed that they couldn’t do anything about it.

Here is where it gets good.

A 3rd party, someone who was not Night Vale, nor even an administrator of the convention, ran to one of the ATMs in the hotel and pulled an account balance of her personal bank account. She took it to the Night Vale crew and said, “This is how much money I have in my bank account right now. I have more than enough to pay you the money that Paypal refuses to transfer to you. I bank here in Chicago, so I can run to my bank and be back with your cash in less than 20 minutes.”

Cranor or Fink (whichever one of them was in the staff room at the time) said no. He said that at this point, they were already 40 minutes behind schedule, and that they’d all just leave and write it off as a business loss.

I’m going to just recap this here really quick: Instead of being willing to work with a convention that almost got shut down the night before because the hotel decided to be jerks to us, Night Vale decided to walk despite the fact that the other half of their money was easily accessible to them and they were partially responsible for being so behind schedule. And now, they’re writing nasty things about DashCon “refusing to pay them” on their tumblrs, twitters, etc.

DashCon was 100% willing and happy to pay them. They were the ones who decided that walking away was the better option, disappointing hundreds of fans.

And just to be clear: This isn’t the first time Night Vale has acted so unprofessionally. They applied for a booth at SDCC, announced that they were going, and then got the answer back from con coordinators saying that their application was rejected. And instead of telling the truth, which is that they lied about being accepted to SDCC, Joseph Fink tweeted the SDCC twitter saying things like “fuck you”.

The best part is, they have a thing on the Commonplace Books website claiming that they’re “going to be at San Diego Comic Con!” but they actually set up shop in a bar down the road from the convention center. They also claim that they’re going to be in the autograph room at various times during the weekend, which no one can prove because that list doesn’t come out until 2 weeks prior to the convention. They are also not listed as official SDCC guests.

So, what we actually have is Night Vale being demanding, whiny babies. If you can’t act professional, don’t be in the spotlight.

As more information comes out, it all seems to verify what we were told at Dash Con.  Funny that.   *eye roll*  Not that it will stop the people determined to fanon this con as nothing but disaster.  But hey, let’s distract from the real issues (what happened with the conference center demanding that 20K on Friday, the organizers shitty communication, the lower then predicted numbers that hurt vender sales) in order to run with this EVERY BIT OF DASH CON WAS AWFUL meme that sprung up over the weekend. 

By my math, that means that WTNV had 84% of their money up front in cash on the table.   That’s a lot more then they were supposed to have since their contract said they would be paid Sunday after the Q&A.   Instead they chose to break their contracts and disappoint fans over 18%.

Guess that tells me what my loyalty and support of their show is worth. 

(murasakiyugata I think you should read this)

Just want to point out, the fact that it was there in cash and paypal actually sounds really damning.

Like, possibly that whole creepy extortion thing that was happening the night before with the “manipulating kids out of their money with all sorts of actually super sketch things” was in order to get WTNV their funds.

Oh, God, they probably pulled the credit cards off of the rooms for BSB and all of them around that time scrambling to get WTNV enough money. Ugh, god, it’s just looking worse and worse for Dashcon and I’m now leaning away from “awfully incompetent” to “incompetent and then willing to do a lot of awful things to try and cover mistakes”.

I have the feeling the hotel wasn’t being jerks. I have the feeling the people who planned all this reserved a certain number of rooms and didn’t fill the correct percentage. Saying that it’s because they “don’t like the con goers” sounds like more manipulation than anything else.

This whole thing is sketch as shit. Getting a pile of money from a con that just collected a pile of money in a bag from scared teenagers they had just terrified with “we’re going to get kicked out!” and then made them donate under this strange mob panic thing, that’s understandably sketch as heeeelllll.

The Hotel is supposed to have confirmed their story and the staff have been advised of what happened. You’re welcome to call and find out. And according to the organizers, WTNV specified that the money needed to be in cash (via email 2 hours before the show started).

And honestly, if I’m WTNV and I hear that the convention center pantsed a convention that I’m supposed to be performing at, I’d be concerned about getting paid too. I’d like to think I’d be a little more accommodating, but I’m also not a successful podcast, so … 

But if you don’t think that having to pay that $20,000 won’t cause a cascade of problems and consequences throughout a weekend, I think you need to reconsider. 

I have not absolved the con organizers of their mistakes in any of my posts. I have said I was impressed with their getting through a very shitty situation and being as transparent as they could be (and apologizing all along the way). I also had a fantastic time at the con and the WTNV/GingerHaze walkout and the Hotel calling their balance due 48 hours earlier than agreed were not the only two things that happened at the con. Just the easiest to use as a bludgeon to beat up on a con that people already wanted to beat up.

I’ve been not responding to this because I’ve been trying to think of a non-dissmissive way of saying it.

I saw your other posts about feeling safe at the con while being a trans woman. I think that’s unbelievably important in ways I can’t even fully understand (being DFAB and so in the closet at the moment that I pass as cis is a hell of a lot less physically dangerous). So I’m not trying to dismiss that part of the experience for you.

The reason that I’m unhappy with this con has nothing to do with the people who went there. I have a lot of problems with the people who put it on. Watching the scramble for the 17k+ made me so very uncomfortable because it was possibly the most competent thing any of them did that weekend and it involved manipulating children out of money. Watching the videos from that evening gave me the willies. I don’t know that the people orchestrating that really knew what they were doing with regards to all that creepy manipulation, but damn, they were good at it. It was — it was something.

And now Megan Eil, the 30+ year old, is throwing some kid under the bus for all this while nothing, nothing of it is her own fault (even though she’s one half of the LLP). I can’t express how much that bothers me. I don’t have words or the emotional intelligence to do such.

I don’t think they’re being transparent. At all. I think they’re (really, Megan Eli) is being shifty and deflecting blame and refusing to take any sort of responsibility while giving it all to her much younger half of the LLP. I think there hasn’t really been actual apologies. I think it’s been a lot of things that make me unbelievably uncomfortable, but remind me of my younger brother, who will fuck up but never admit to doing wrong ever.

From what I can understand of the e-mails that Megan Eli DashCon posted, WTNV was supposed to be paid on Friday and that wasn’t possible. Then they saw the SOS and, 12 to 13 hours before the performance, asked that their payment be made in check or cashiers check to avoid it bouncing. It looks like there was compromise already: they appeared to have let the con pay them later than agreed upon and seem to have paid in part for their lodgings and travel.

All of this is sketch to me. Not the part where people had a good time in a place that felt safe to them. TBH, I think that’s more due to the people you were with at the con and nothing really to do with the people who were in charge.

"manipulated children out of money"

You say this as if the entirety of the con was populated by 14 year olds. While the con most certainly skewed young, the vast majority of attendees were 18 or older. I would estimate that the plurality, if not majority of attendees were between the ages of 18 and 24. These are young adults, capable of voting, serving in the military, drive and hold jobs. And a significant number of them are old enough to drink in Illinois.

And there were plenty of old geezers like me there. I’ll be 36 in August. I kind of resent the idea that I was manipulated and I don’t really care for your infantilization of the rest of the attendees. I don’t know how old you are, but I promise you that you would have been blown away by their thoughtfulness, conscientiousness and social awareness. Even the few 14 year olds that I wound up sharing and audience with in one of the panels were incredibly savvy. That’s not to say that they are immune to emotional appeals, but I think the reason they raised the money so fast was because we all realized that if we all chip in a little, we can continue the con that most of those people had travelled to and arranged lodging for and paid for. Given the choice between an extra $25 from me, or kicking out all the artists, vendors and attendees, my choice was easy. And no, I’m not asking for a refund. 

IDK, friend, I think your “feeling uncomfortable” is awfully patronizing. I’m not trying to be shitty here (as in my tone), I’m just responding to what I’m reading. You probably don’t mean it that way, but … wow does it feel condescending. I mean, I have two kids, a career and a mortgage. I feel like I am capable of making my own financial decisions, and I’m going to go out on a limb and say I wasn’t the only one there able to do so.

As for the reason I felt safe? When you say the people who were with me at the con, I hope you’re including all of those aforementioned fellow attendees, and the security staff and the con zero-tolerance policy. I didn’t huddle with my girlfriend the whole con and thus felt safe. In fact, she and I spent most of the con at different panels. I felt safe in the whole space. Not just in the panel rooms, not just in artist’s alley. The entire con felt safe and comforting and the con staff absolutely had a hand in that. As you said, that is no small feat. I can’t possibly stress how incredible that safety felt.

As for the rest of it and being dismissive, that’s ok, I don’t mind that. You have an opinion, comprised of some good points and a whole heap of distrust of Meg. But … I’m not Meg, I’m not the con staff. I am not interested in defending Meg or Roxanne or Cain or Lochlan or any of them. They are all fully capable of defending themselves, if they so choose. And their company has put out a statement with what facts they are able to or choosing to share. But I respect the hell out of the con they threw despite some incredible adversity.

If you are waiting for me to concede that it was a failed con, or a bad con, or that I actually, all things considered, had a bad time, I wouldn’t recommend holding your breath. The fact is, the con had structural, planning and management problems. And despite all of that, they had a successful con anyway, by all of MY measures. 

We can play “what if” all night, but they have provided their facts and their case, I’ve spoken from my experience, and you’ve made your decision. I’m not sure we need to talk about this anymore? I don’t mean that with contention or malice, just … I don’t know what there is to say?

I did mean the attendees, vendors and security.

The appeal for 17k + made me extremely uncomfortable because I saw (through video) young kids (teens and young twenties) get herded into a room, panicked by the people up front that the con would get shut down without contribution, told the hotel didn’t like the look of them, asked to give money under a time limit and in a room filled with folks. They set up a communal feeling with singing and hand signs.

Watching it gave me the heebie heebies because it felt like the sort of thing I’ve experienced in evangelical (scary) churches. It was frightening to see and recognize the techniques. I know I would have fallen for them as an adult. I know it’s easier to do such things to younger people, and many flooded young to me.

I’m not asking you to admit a failed con. I’m not asking you to speak for them. My problem isn’t with the people who attended, it’s with the people who were in charge. My main dislike is that 17k + debacle.

(Reblogged from brinconvenient)

Anonymous said: So Dashcon staff have, so far, tried to claim that WTNV was paid anyway (icensoredyou[.]tumblr[.]com/post/91644976458/wtnv-lied-just-so-you-know), Dashcon’s official ‘Head of the Doctor Who Committee’ claims that "Why should they pay for Gingerhaze letting people down?" (theprofessorstrikesagain[.]tumblr[.]com/post/91788943591/note-this-is-in-a-submit-form-bc-i-actually-have), and they're trying to start rumours that 4Chan ruined Dashcon (www[.]youtube[.]com/watch?v=RCSgrHogq6I). Pls explain?

brinconvenient:

lorentztransformation:

dani-kin:

theprofessorstrikesagain:

brinconvenient:

It was my understanding that the 4chan rumors were never serious. It was a common joke on the floor Friday night and I even almost made a post that ended in “your move 4chan” after they’d raised the money, but I thought better of it because I thought people (and 4chan) might take me seriously.

As for WTNV, dashcon staff said they paid half of the appearance fee and didn’t receive an invoice for travel expenses requirements until a few days before the event. Staff said that WTNV elected to pay for their own flight and choose their own lodgings rather than stay at the Renaissance Hotel. (The mention of reimbursement leads me to believe that all parties had originally agreed on that and that the con would reimburse their costs). Per Roxanne at the final panel, they had 2/3 of the remaining 50% on the table in the meeting with Jeffrey Cranor but he decided to take the business loss and walk, since they were already more than 40 minutes past the time they were supposed to start.

I’m even willing to overlook WTNV arriving 15 minutes late to the venue since they were coming from Chicago, which is actually 40 minutes away from the venue on a good traffic day, and Chicago usually does not have good traffic days.

I am not responsible for theprofessorstrikesagain's words or opinion. Judging from this “I was the Head of the now unneeded Doctor Who Committee.” I think that she is not speaking in an official capacity either. In either case, take that up with people who were involved: theprofessorstrikesagain, gingerhaze, dashcon, and night-vale-community-radio

Everyone. Please stop asking me to speak for people who are not me.

HAHAHA. Okay, I’m going to respond to this real quick.

I have repeatedly, to the point of annoyance, stated that I am not an administrator of DashCon. I’m not a moderator of DashCon and I’m not in any way an owner of DashCon. I was a volunteer who also did 3 panels. I am no longer an official anything. That is the extent of my involvement with the event. The things that I’m stating in posts on my own blog are things that I’m saying because I want to say them. I am speaking out because I want to speak out.

1.) As to the Gingerhaze thing, yeah, I don’t think they should pay for her abandoning the con, but that’s their call, not mine. I have zero to do with it.

2.) The above statements about appearance fees and invoices, etc. are absolutely true. The Night Vale crew decided that they wanted to be put up in a hotel in downtown Chicago instead of staying in the Renaissance like everyone else because they’re special snowflakes. This was the reason they were late 15 minutes to their own show.

3.) The explanation here about the money is a little off, so I’m going to clear it up.

It’s absolutely true that the admins had 2/3 of their remaining 50% in cash. They had the remaining 1/3 in Paypal, due to the fiasco of the night before. This is why Night Vale demanded their money when they did; they thought that they weren’t going to get paid at the end of the weekend. The admins said that they were more than welcome to have their money before their performance, which is when they showed up 15 minutes late.

They went into the staff office and the admins showed them that they had the 2/3 in cash and the remaining 1/3 in Paypal. However, Paypal was having server errors at the time, and refused to transfer the money. The admins spent 25 minutes trying to transfer the money, apologizing the entire time. They called Paypal to ask what was going on and Paypal claimed that they couldn’t do anything about it.

Here is where it gets good.

A 3rd party, someone who was not Night Vale, nor even an administrator of the convention, ran to one of the ATMs in the hotel and pulled an account balance of her personal bank account. She took it to the Night Vale crew and said, “This is how much money I have in my bank account right now. I have more than enough to pay you the money that Paypal refuses to transfer to you. I bank here in Chicago, so I can run to my bank and be back with your cash in less than 20 minutes.”

Cranor or Fink (whichever one of them was in the staff room at the time) said no. He said that at this point, they were already 40 minutes behind schedule, and that they’d all just leave and write it off as a business loss.

I’m going to just recap this here really quick: Instead of being willing to work with a convention that almost got shut down the night before because the hotel decided to be jerks to us, Night Vale decided to walk despite the fact that the other half of their money was easily accessible to them and they were partially responsible for being so behind schedule. And now, they’re writing nasty things about DashCon “refusing to pay them” on their tumblrs, twitters, etc.

DashCon was 100% willing and happy to pay them. They were the ones who decided that walking away was the better option, disappointing hundreds of fans.

And just to be clear: This isn’t the first time Night Vale has acted so unprofessionally. They applied for a booth at SDCC, announced that they were going, and then got the answer back from con coordinators saying that their application was rejected. And instead of telling the truth, which is that they lied about being accepted to SDCC, Joseph Fink tweeted the SDCC twitter saying things like “fuck you”.

The best part is, they have a thing on the Commonplace Books website claiming that they’re “going to be at San Diego Comic Con!” but they actually set up shop in a bar down the road from the convention center. They also claim that they’re going to be in the autograph room at various times during the weekend, which no one can prove because that list doesn’t come out until 2 weeks prior to the convention. They are also not listed as official SDCC guests.

So, what we actually have is Night Vale being demanding, whiny babies. If you can’t act professional, don’t be in the spotlight.

As more information comes out, it all seems to verify what we were told at Dash Con.  Funny that.   *eye roll*  Not that it will stop the people determined to fanon this con as nothing but disaster.  But hey, let’s distract from the real issues (what happened with the conference center demanding that 20K on Friday, the organizers shitty communication, the lower then predicted numbers that hurt vender sales) in order to run with this EVERY BIT OF DASH CON WAS AWFUL meme that sprung up over the weekend. 

By my math, that means that WTNV had 84% of their money up front in cash on the table.   That’s a lot more then they were supposed to have since their contract said they would be paid Sunday after the Q&A.   Instead they chose to break their contracts and disappoint fans over 18%.

Guess that tells me what my loyalty and support of their show is worth. 

(murasakiyugata I think you should read this)

Just want to point out, the fact that it was there in cash and paypal actually sounds really damning.

Like, possibly that whole creepy extortion thing that was happening the night before with the “manipulating kids out of their money with all sorts of actually super sketch things” was in order to get WTNV their funds.

Oh, God, they probably pulled the credit cards off of the rooms for BSB and all of them around that time scrambling to get WTNV enough money. Ugh, god, it’s just looking worse and worse for Dashcon and I’m now leaning away from “awfully incompetent” to “incompetent and then willing to do a lot of awful things to try and cover mistakes”.

I have the feeling the hotel wasn’t being jerks. I have the feeling the people who planned all this reserved a certain number of rooms and didn’t fill the correct percentage. Saying that it’s because they “don’t like the con goers” sounds like more manipulation than anything else.

This whole thing is sketch as shit. Getting a pile of money from a con that just collected a pile of money in a bag from scared teenagers they had just terrified with “we’re going to get kicked out!” and then made them donate under this strange mob panic thing, that’s understandably sketch as heeeelllll.

The Hotel is supposed to have confirmed their story and the staff have been advised of what happened. You’re welcome to call and find out. And according to the organizers, WTNV specified that the money needed to be in cash (via email 2 hours before the show started).

And honestly, if I’m WTNV and I hear that the convention center pantsed a convention that I’m supposed to be performing at, I’d be concerned about getting paid too. I’d like to think I’d be a little more accommodating, but I’m also not a successful podcast, so … 

But if you don’t think that having to pay that $20,000 won’t cause a cascade of problems and consequences throughout a weekend, I think you need to reconsider. 

I have not absolved the con organizers of their mistakes in any of my posts. I have said I was impressed with their getting through a very shitty situation and being as transparent as they could be (and apologizing all along the way). I also had a fantastic time at the con and the WTNV/GingerHaze walkout and the Hotel calling their balance due 48 hours earlier than agreed were not the only two things that happened at the con. Just the easiest to use as a bludgeon to beat up on a con that people already wanted to beat up.

I’ve been not responding to this because I’ve been trying to think of a non-dissmissive way of saying it.

I saw your other posts about feeling safe at the con while being a trans woman. I think that’s unbelievably important in ways I can’t even fully understand (being DFAB and so in the closet at the moment that I pass as cis is a hell of a lot less physically dangerous). So I’m not trying to dismiss that part of the experience for you.

The reason that I’m unhappy with this con has nothing to do with the people who went there. I have a lot of problems with the people who put it on. Watching the scramble for the 17k+ made me so very uncomfortable because it was possibly the most competent thing any of them did that weekend and it involved manipulating children out of money. Watching the videos from that evening gave me the willies. I don’t know that the people orchestrating that really knew what they were doing with regards to all that creepy manipulation, but damn, they were good at it. It was — it was something.

And now Megan Eil, the 30+ year old, is throwing some kid under the bus for all this while nothing, nothing of it is her own fault (even though she’s one half of the LLP). I can’t express how much that bothers me. I don’t have words or the emotional intelligence to do such.

I don’t think they’re being transparent. At all. I think they’re (really, Megan Eli) is being shifty and deflecting blame and refusing to take any sort of responsibility while giving it all to her much younger half of the LLP. I think there hasn’t really been actual apologies. I think it’s been a lot of things that make me unbelievably uncomfortable, but remind me of my younger brother, who will fuck up but never admit to doing wrong ever.

From what I can understand of the e-mails that Megan Eli DashCon posted, WTNV was supposed to be paid on Friday and that wasn’t possible. Then they saw the SOS and, 12 to 13 hours before the performance, asked that their payment be made in check or cashiers check to avoid it bouncing. It looks like there was compromise already: they appeared to have let the con pay them later than agreed upon and seem to have paid in part for their lodgings and travel.

All of this is sketch to me. Not the part where people had a good time in a place that felt safe to them. TBH, I think that’s more due to the people you were with at the con and nothing really to do with the people who were in charge.

(Reblogged from brinconvenient)
(Reblogged from scarlet-andromeda)

I just watched part of the Dashcon LGBTQ&A panel video

regularlyschedulednegativity:

As a gay guy, I can honestly say, these people DO NOT represent me. On the subject of the word “queer”, the lesson we learned is that some people can say it and others can’t.

No. If it offends you when a straight person says it, it should offend you just as much when anyone else says it or you are a MASSIVE hypocrite.

That is not how equality works. That is not progression. That is not cool. What the fuck is up with Tumblr’s obsession of segregating people while flying the banner of equality?!

No, you do not need to ask what you can and can’t say around me. I can take a joke about my orientation, as long as you aren’t obviously being antagonistic (a trait many SJW’s need to control). I would be more offended by someone being on edge around me and constantly apologising for what they say then by someone coming up to me and saying lightheartedly “alright Gayboy?” People should not be treading on ice around you - that is not equality.

The brief discussion they made about representation in media was not only patronising, but insulting. I am ashamed that members of that panel are part of my “community”. I do not get on my high horse about the gays often, but you are not going to sit there and talk about diversity and equality while simultaneously being part of the problem.

I wish I had a non PDF version of this Stages of Internalized Homophobia and Transphobia (warning, it goes to a PDF download) because when I say you’re somewhere between Stage 2: Pity and Stage 3: Tolerance, I don’t think you’ll know exactly what that means. 

Hopefully, you will one day figure out why having straight people use “queer” is potentially a problem for some LGBTQ folks. Heck, having people ID as queer is sometimes an issue due to people’s own experiences with the word queer.

Also, if you think that’s a really good use of the word segregation in context of equality, you probably weren’t really big on the history thing in school, huh?

(Reblogged from regularlyschedulednegativity)